Cocktail Party Conversations 1: What Do You Do

Two people meet at a cocktail party. 
“Hi, I’m Joe, what’s your name?” one guy asks the other.
“Hi Joe, I’m Jon,” the other guy answers back.

And what comes next? What always comes next? 
No one ever then says, “What are you all about? What do you stand for? What is your sign (at least not since the sixties)?” 

No, it’s always the same question, no matter who you are, no matter what party you are at  - “WHAT DO YOU DO?”

Why do we want to know what someone does versus what someone is? Because we are obsessed with doing. Our worth is tied up in doing. You want to be more, then do more, work harder - “just do it” not “just be it.” Our value is bound up with how much we create, achieve or produce? It’s why our society doesn’t value seniors or people with disabilities or philosophers, poets or painters (unless their artwork sells for millions of course).

In the words of Wayne Dyer, we have forgotten that we are Human Beings and we act like we are Human Doings. This is why we can’t sit still if we are not doing; we feel guilty if we are not doing; we feel inadequate, incomplete or ashamed if we are not doing, achieving or producing!

But if, indeed, we are what we do then we are doomed for frustration and failure as we can never, will never do enough and therefore we will never be enough.

So remember - no matter what you do or don’t do.
You are not a human doing - you are a human being and the fact that you are here and you are you is enough.
And just think how much fun you’ll have answering that question at the next cocktail party. What will your answer be? Post it on my site or on my FB Page - I’d like to hear what it is.

Baruch HaLevi