We like to think we’re so much more advanced than previous generations. Truth be told, we’re not any further along than our ancestors, certainly not when it comes to communication.
OK, so we’re not as repressed as previous generations in some areas. Now there is virtually no conversation off limits, for better or worse. Whether it’s in the private or the public realm we can talk about anything and everything— except death.
Did you know that by the time a child finishes elementary school they have seen 8,000 acts of violence on TV.
Did you know that by the time they graduate high school they will have seen 200,000 acts of violence.
If it weren’t such a tragedy, it would be a comedy.
Our kids can watch death on TV. Our kids can enact death on video games, virtually killing or being killed (and the blood being spilled these days doesn’t look so make-believe).And yet, they can’t talk to us, or don’t want to talk to us, or more likely, are not comfortable talking to us about death.
When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation about death with your child, or any child? When you were a child, how many meaningful conversations about these issues did you have with an adult? Exactly.
We are afraid of death.
We are uncomfortable in talking about death.
We have outsourced our duty as parents, teachers and adults to teach our children about life and death, so they go seeking answers and insights in disturbing, fictitious and scary places.
The silence around death still pervades. In so many ways, when it comes to death, we are still deep within a culture of silence. It’s unholy silence. Shatter the silence.