When you are within the darkness, any kind of darkness, but particularly after loss - there is nothing worse than being around others and not feeling seen, not feeling heard, not feeling understood.
Sometimes it’s lonelier being with people who don’t listen to you than being alone.
Sometimes you just have to speak up, speak out, tell them that you feel invisible, feel misunderstood, feel like they aren’t listening.
Here is a poem to remind you, you are not alone. You need to be heard. You deserve to be listened to.
“You’re Not Listening,” author unknown.
Are you listening when I talk to you ?
Do you even care what I'm going through
Your eyes are staring, staring right through me
You're right there, and it's as if you never knew me
I scream but you don't hear a sound
I guess it's hard to hear when you're never around
You've never listened to a thing I've said
It's like you've forgotten me, like I'm already dead
As if I'm non-existent to you
You'll never listen, no matter what I do.
It's not like it matters what I say
You won't listen anyway
With every day this problem only gets worse
If it's you who won't listen, why must I be cursed ?
I wish you could, but you'll never understand
Why the distance between us will only expand
You don't know how I really feel
You don't get the point that this is all too real
I find it quite absurd
How my voice goes on unheard
I'm running out of ways to get through to you
I'm at a loss of what to do
I shout the things you'll never hear
I scream my feelings into your ear
Yet you till won't listen to me
I know you don't care, than much I can see
You may say my voice doesn't mean a thing
But its time you started listening